ARE YOU MY FRIEND?
You’ve probably thought you made a friend one lunch.
You laid your whole life out on a silver platter, and handed it directly to them. You did it because they gave you an instant feeling of trust and reliance, so you didn’t feel the need to second guess yourself.
"why did I tell her that? I hardly even know her"
You tell them what they want to hear. You didn’t even realise what you were doing.
Your thoughts say, shes my FRIEND, shes not gonna stab me in the back. Right?? But are they really? You’ve been so drawn to believe that hanging out with someone for a lunch time or two, is what you call a friend. You don’t even know what the word means.
To me a real friend ...
Goes the distance – Stands up for you no matter what, and doesn’t want to leave in your worst. Plays with you in the sun, but shelters you in the rain. Your #rideordie.
Forgives – You can have your ups and downs, but in the end always comes back, and understands completely. We all have things going on in our lives that might impact our relationships.
Celebrates rather than compares – They bring you up, and celebrate with you. They don’t take it in a way of you showing off, and you both share the moment together.
Pays attention – They actually listen to what you say and value your time spent with them. Don’t waste time with people who waste your time. They accept you for who you are, no matter your appearance, your past or present. What you wear or where you live. They want to get to know you on a deeper level, know your story and share their story with you.
Remember that friendship is a two way street.
Whatever you are looking for in a friend, whether its certain qualities or interests, you should expect to be the same way back. Put positive thoughts on what kind of a friend you want into the universe, and you never know who might turn up in your life tomorrow. If you think about what you want, rather than what you don’t, you will see the way you look at the world, completely transform around you.
Why don't you let me know what qualities you value in a friend?
Till next time, Rosalie xx